I love my gay son

I made him feel ashamed, unloved, and rejected. If you've ever heard "I'm gay" from a son or daughter, how do you respond in love to the news from your gay child?. I told him I was not only thankful, but I was, as his mom, proud of him.

I believe this issue places all of us at a crossroads—in one direction is a road paved with hate, leading to the destruction of relationships and life; and in the other direction lies a road paved with love, leading to healthy relationships and life.

Yet even if that person never changes, I believe with all of my heart that God will provide you with people who will love, accept and support you. This attitude began to open up a safe space for Nick and me to genuinely connect again, to have real conversations instead of wrestling matches, to share our thought processes and feelings, and to really hear what the other person was saying.

Within a day or two, I found an opportunity to let Nick know I recognized how much grace and love he was showing me, and how much I appreciated it. You will probably be surprised to hear that today Nick and I have a wonderful relationship.

RAM'S DAD: Now, I say my boy's in heaven and he's tanning by the pool The cherubim walk him and him, and Jesus says it's cool!. CONGREGATION: He loves his son He loves his son His dead gay son! I want to address the warning of how my initial reaction could have had a much more devastating result—one that could have caused me to lose my son forever.

I also share my story to give hope and encouragement to anyone who has been deeply hurt or rejected because of their sexual identity. In the ‘Heathers’ movie, Kurt’s dad leans over his son’s body and whispers ‘I love my dead gay son’ which is most likely the inspiration for this song.

A Mother’s Heart… Loving :

I said things a loving mother never should, and I will deeply regret it for the rest of my life. I am embarrassed and ashamed to say that I reacted horribly. Many young people have attempted to take their own life when rejected by a parent because of their sexual orientation, and sadly, some have succeeded.

And from this, I learned to love unconditionally and to be careful to whom you go for counsel. I realized it took a lot of love and grace for Nick to want to keep having a relationship with me, knowing I was judging him.

One thing that helped the process along was that Nick continued to fight for the relationship. I believe we could have as easily found people who would have focused on condemning Nick, yet we were very intentional about seeking counsel and support from people we believed demonstrated Christ-like love in their lives.

The conversation was particularly helpful in teaching me to be more humble about what I believed. Even when he was angry and hurt, he always said he wanted a relationship with our family and me. I share my story for three reasons.

How did it happen? Lastly, the last thing that guided my journey was being a part of an open-minded Christian conversation group. If you are a parent reading this, I urge you to put your relationship with your child and your love for your child above everything else.

Please know that there is still hope. The few people my husband and I confided in at the time echoed the same message. Not only did this group give me a place where I could work through my doubts and anger towards God, it also gave me an opportunity to hear other sincere followers of Jesus Christ giving voice to a variety of opinions about same-sex relationships.

If I could change, I believe anyone can.